In the Shel Silverstein poem "Zebra Question" the child asks "are you black with white stripes or white with black?" And the zebra asks "are you good with naughty times or naughty with good?" That's a key question for marriages. Is it good with bad times or bad with good? Unlike the zebra's stripes, the order matters.My husband and I have been happily married for 26 years, with sad times. And our schedule is the source of most problems. We realized this after mistaking and blaming other things: ourselves, each other, mostly. And we have learned that relationships don't just happen. Time together has to be created and cherished. If you wait for it to happen, it never will. Relationship Glue Recipe, Make Time Do Not Just Wait for It
